Good Afternoon Everyone,

How are you guys? I hope you all enjoyed your thanksgiving. We don’t celebrate that much in the UK or in my home  it but it is something I will want to celebrate when I have a family one day and with my family now because I love bringing people together and celebrating life in general. So what did you do this week? If you were to ask me; I have been a little busy with work, making sure that I catch up with friends and family. It has been great but little stressful and I have also picked up a lot of valuable lessons about myself, about life and I feel that my capacity to understand life, circumstances, and to a certain extent other people has increased tremendously. I feel like I understand things a lot better than I have ever did but before I share what my experience has been, I want to share this a song with you. I have been listening to it non-stop and I love it, it has helped me to feel free to express myself to God, to see God in a more dynamic way. So it is my desire to share it with you. It’s called “you still love me” by Tasha Cobbs Leonard. I recommend you listen to it until you are convinced that God loves you no matter what.

Didn’t you love that song- it’s a powerful and I am inspired to dig deeper in the lord and love on him; to remember that he loves me deeply.

So there’s something I want to share with you; it’s quite simple and you know it as well but I thought I would share my thoughts about it and that is the notion and the power of the perfect you and me. Recently I was walking to work and a thought came in my head, saying: “I am pretty cool”, “I am pretty amazing”. I felt so happy about it that notion because it finally dawned on me that I am great and excellent as well. It dawned on me that if I can love people for who they are, why wont they like me for who I am? I thought how can anybody not love me, I am pretty and I realised for so many years I was just around the wrong people, I chose the wrong people because I was not whole. The enemy has lied to me for so long and I believed him when he said that I wasn’t valuable; so I thought that I needed to work hard in order for people to love me and to accept me. I didn’t realise that I was already valuable and important and anybody who doesn’t love me that’s not my problem because I am pretty cool. Friends, family, work, purpose, boyfriends, dates couldn’t give it me but look at what God said about me and you in Deuteronomy 14:2.

Deuteronomy 14:2 “You only are a people holy to God, your God; God chose you out of all the people on Earth as his cherished personal treasure.” 

So, some of you are thinking: “well you are full of yourself Sarah”, and I say “well no I am really not”. Every human being knows there’s something wrong about not loving and accepting yourself and I believe this year I am finally at peace with me. I believe God has used people around me to help me, to love on me. I am around positive whole people- people that love, appreciate themselves, see good in others and I really value that. I am not saying we need to be rude and horrible to people no that is not what I am saying at all. What I am saying is you are created perfectly by an almighty God who loves you. You are his product, his love, his beautiful creature and you might as well accept the value he wants to give you, accept God and yourself. Look at what he says in 1 Peter 2:9

“But you are the ones chosen by God, chosen for the high calling of priestly work, chosen to be a holy people, God’s instruments to do his work and speak out for him, to tell others of the night-and-day difference he made for you—from nothing to something, from rejected to accepted.”

So, anyway as I was walking to work; I feel this sense of confidence which I haven’t felt in a very long time. It dawned on me that I am amazing not out of pride but out of appreciating who I am. The reason why I am saying this is to encourage anyone on the journey of wholeness on loving who you are. I used to think it would be a painful journey where I wouldn’t have any fun, but I have been liberated more ways in my soul than I have been in a very long time. There’s a freedom, a great capacity operating on the inside of me that I didn’t have before.

So, I guess you are wondering what it was that got me to this point of freedom and the only way I can explain it is discovering myself and I did that asking God to show me my greatest beauty, perfection, my strengths and greatness that he created me in and for. You see I was acquainted with my weaknesses and I knew them very well and I focused so much on the all my life that I started to believe I was faulty and because of that it reflected in all my relationships especially intimate ones because I used to use those relationships to gain value. Now that I am whole I function emotionally at different levels than I ever did in my life. I am no longer afraid to be me and I function as me and if someone doesn’t like me that is your business not mine. The reason I am saying this is that God has honestly shown me beauty in people all around me and I have noticed that human beings are beautiful creatures that desire love and acceptance. It is not my job to judge you, its my job to love you and help you become the best of you that you can, it does not mean correction doesn’t come because it does but its down out of love and what of desire to bring the best out of you.

Although we have weaknesses, if we look for the good in othersis  we will find it. Now I know in certain situations it can be hard, believe me I know, I have been there as well but anyway start by loving on you, accepting you, and asking God to showing your truth and embrace it because you will accomplish so much more. I want to tell you you are great, excellent and amazing. Discover you, it is the most beautiful journey in the world. Now that I have shared this with you what do you think? This thing I am talking about has changed me in how I see myself, in my relationships and how I function with other people, it has given me the freedom to be me and that is by living at the truth and core of who I am. I realise that sometimes this sounds like a hard journey but it is so worth. What you give in a relationship is who you are and that is in any relationship. Some of my best moments in my life have been healing emotionally because I can live freely.

When we know our worth and self value we have a confidence and a self awareness of what our needs are. When have a standard that is comfortable to us, we can speak up for ourselves without fear of what others feel because self-value is something that we all need and demand out of people. By demand I mean that we don’t feel about wanting to have the right relationships, the right friendships and many more. By knowing our needs and standards we can surround ourselves with the right people because we know what we need, we know who we need and naturally like begets like, best attracts best and vice visa. It is knowing your worth and not letting other people giving it to you depending on how they treat you. I now know that the right people will choose you and me, they will accept you and work with you to become the best you, they won’t just give up on me and you. They will see your heart and love you for who you are because you are pretty cool. So our job is to pray and to discern who is supposed to be in our life. It is actually simple but for so many years it was complicated for me because I did not know my value, I based my value based on other peoples behaviour, words towards me and how they would treat me and I was wrong and they were wrong too. Let me share another scripture with you. John 15:16

You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you.

I found out that I am great, and a joy to be around and if others cannot accept me for me that’s not my fault, I just need to surround myself with positive, great, good people that love me and accept me for me. I realise that I am the prize and so are you friend, I realised I am funny and I have a great personality and those that are blessed enough to know my heart, the real me. So I encourage you to open up to those around you with wisdom of course and allow others to see the goodness that is on the inside of you, to see your heart and the real you, to see your truth. As you’re progressing to grow and advance to be a better version of yourself enjoy you and live free. Let your soul be liberated. live free.

I love you


Written by Sarah Kiki Nyanzi

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